Where can a gay evangelical Christian go?

It is by no means easy for a gay Christian to find genuinely helpful spiritual support. The difficulties faced by evangelical Christians in the UK are particularly acute. In the months since my homosexual orientation was made public many such gay evangelicals have contacted me. Most simply do not dare to "come out" in the churches they attend and they feel immensely isolated as a result. Since quite a few of these contacts have arisen through this webpage I thought providing a few links to the meagre resources for counsel and fellowship that do exist might be a good idea. If you have additional information that you think I could include please let me know. 

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UK LINKS

The Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement

  For many years the LGCM has courageously provided a public face for gay Christians in Britain. It is ecumenical in its theological stance. Since most opposition to its work comes from militantly anti-gay organisations affiliated to the Evangelical Alliance, it is not surprising that its magazine and press-releases sometimes feel hostile to evangelicalism generally. But this would be a most unfair conclusion to draw. Richard Kirker, the General Secretary, quietly provides a great deal of pastoral support for gays in evangelical churches. In an article in Pink Paper, a widely read gay newspaper, he pleaded with Christian and non-Christian gays for a more sympathetic understanding of where evangelicals were coming from, and a more rational approach to dialogue with them. LGCM also has an extensive selection of books available by mail order 

The lgcm statement of conviction
Human sexuality in all its richness is a gift of God gladly to be accepted, enjoyed
and honoured as way of both expressing and growing in love, in accordance with
the life and teaching of Jesus Christ; therefore it is our conviction that it is entirely
compatible with the Christian faith not only to love another person of the same sex
but also to express that love fully in a personal sexual relationship.

 

LGCM, Oxford House, Derbyshire St., London E2 6HG 

tel 020 7739 1249 email: lgcm@aol.com

The Evangelical Fellowship of Lesbian and Gay Christians

Formed in 1979 this is effectively the evangelical wing of LGCM though it is quite independent organisationally. It holds residential conferences and regional meetings. 

The EFLGC also seeks to network gay evangelicals on a confidential basis for mutual fellowship and encouragement. 

It subscribes to the LGCM statement of conviction above. 

EFLGC, 123 Byron Road, Chelmsford, CM2 6HJ 

Changing Attitude

Changing Attitude works to affirm gay and lesbian Christians within the Church of England. There are representatives in almost all dioceses and a range of events and opportunities for fellowship. The website has been recently redesigned.

Changing Attitude: 12 Lavender Gardens London SW11 1DL Tel: 020 7738 1305 Fax: 020 7738 0584

Courage

Jeremy Marks founded Courage in 1988 to provide pastoral support for Christians who were finding conflict between their homosexual orientation and their faith. He believes that many gays are suffering the consequences of deprivation during their emotional development and, in the past, he held that the work of the Holy Spirit through affirming and loving friendships held hope of repairing this deficit. Though gay himself, Jeremy married in 1991, providing personal testimony to this possibility. As a result his organisation was until recently accepted as an affiliate of both the Evangelical Alliance and Exodus International. 

However, in more recent publications it is clear that Jeremy's pastoral experience has led him to review his response to the gay condition. He talks in an essay, Jesus Christ the same yesterday today and forever, of the need for a "fresh vision" and a "new approach". Jeremy has discovered that the vast majority of gay Christians simply cannot and do not follow the path of celibacy or marriage that Courage has previously insisted upon. He concludes that the "ex-gay" movement has failed and that it is inappropriate to encourage gay Christians to expect "healing" or "deliverance". The only responsible pastoral stance is one of acceptance and accommodation. How a particular individual comes to terms with their homosexual orientation clearly involves moral choices, which for a Christian must be made prayerfully and in the light of Bible teaching. But Jeremy, very wisely, is no longer prepared to pontificate about what those choices should be. Every gay Christian must find their own solution and take responsibility for their own conduct. Courage now sees its role as simply offering much-needed pastoral support and fellowship to those who are negotiating that frequently lonely path. I, for one, am grateful for its existence. 

Note new addressand phone: Courage, P.O. Box 748 GUILDFORD, GU1 1FX. U.K.

tel.01483 301411 email: office@courage.org.uk

True Freedom Trust

Martin Hallett is the founder of TFT and it is probably the best known evangelical ministry to gays in the UK. It has always supported the traditional line, believing that all homosexual practice is sinful but that homosexually oriented Christians have access through the Holy Spirit to the moral power needed to resist temptation in this area. Like Jeremy Marks of Courage (see above), Martin Hallett is himself gay and was involved in an active gay lifestyle at one time. He often uses his own testimony to prove that the homosexual condition, even if it is not remediable in the majority of cases, can at least be successfully disciplined by divinely assisted self-control. Unlike Jeremy Marks, however, there is no evidence of any possible revision of this uncompromising stance. Martin is convinced his experience ought to be shared by all Christian gays. 

TFT remains therefore an organisation that only offers help to the minority of gay Christians who believe they can and must abstain from any kind of sexually expressive homosexual relationship. It is affiliated to the Evangelical Alliance and Exodus the international body based in the USA which links many similar ex-gay ministries of this kind. 

Martin Hallet is a wise and gentle man who I suspect is often embarrassed by the thinly veiled homophobia that characterises too many evangelical pontifications on the gay issue. Those who share his conservative position will find great encouragement in his group. And at least TFT, unlike many other members of Exodus, does not maintain that all Christian homosexuals ought to expect "deliverance" from their condition. It seems to accept that "homosexual" is an identity, not just a practice. 

But I, for one, am dubious about the pastoral wisdom of any group that demands lifelong celibacy of its members. It is one thing to choose celibacy voluntarily as a vocation, and quite another to have it imposed under threat of church discipline and without the possibility of any legitimate and more sexually-fulfilling alternative. 

True Freedom Trust, PO Box 13, Prenton, Wirral CH43 6YB

tel. 0151 653 0773 email: martin@tftrust.u-net.com

The Metropolitan Community Churches

Since the MCC was founded by the pentecostalist pastor Troy Perry in the late 60's it has become a substantial denomination, mainly based in the USA. It is the only group of churches in the UK which make ministry to the gay, lesbian and transgendered communities their major goal. There are lively congregations in several cities including:  North London and Manchester and Bournemouth. 

MCC churches are not usually evangelical in their theological position. In fact some evangelicals may get rather irritated by an excessive concern to be politically correct and "inclusive". And legitimate questions can be raised about whether any church should focus quite so much around a single issue as the MCC tends to do. But if you need a church where a gay Christian can feel completely relaxed and "out", the MCC fills the bill. And most of the MCC congregations I have visited would benefit from the greater emphasis on bible study and expository preaching which a few more evangelicals in their membership would probably bring. 

Reluctant Journey

This is not an organisation but a book (56 pp £3.50) written by George Hopper. It describes how George, a heterosexual, married, evangelical, Methodist local preacher "with no axe to grind" has been led into a ministry of support for gay Christians. Personal Bible study led him to the conclusion that gay people were being treated unjustly by the Church. There is an associated website:

G.S.E. Hopper, PO Box 5846, Basildon, SS15 4GS

Baptist Network: - for gay Baptists

Martin Stears, 22 Eynsford Court, Hitchin, Herts, SG4 9JS; tel no. 01462 624923; email martin.stears@freeuk.com

 

INTERNATIONAL LINKS

I receive an increasing number of enquiries from gay evangelicals outside of the UK. I would like to build up a list of sites which seek to offer them support - ideally one site for every country in the world (and in the case of the USA, one for every state!). This will require YOUR help. Please send me your recommended sites - if possible making clear their theological stance and their attitude to the ex-gay movement.

NORTH AMERICA

Evangelicals Concerned USA (links below)

This is not so much an organisation that can help gay Christians in the UK directly as a model of the greater contribution which gay evangelicals could be making to the wider debate within the Church. Ralph Blair founded the group in 1964 when his advocacy of an integrative evangelical Christian understanding of homosexuality resulted in his dismissal from the staff of IVCF in the USA. It holds major conferences each Summer called Connection located at venues across North America. Commendably, it sponsors events which are not exclusively focussed around gay issues.

EC works on both sides of the USA.

Evangelicals Concerned -Western region

:PO Box 19734, Seattle, WA 98109-6734

Evangelicals Concerned - Eastern region - this site contains a wealth of material by Ralph Blair which is of interest and help

311 East 72nd Street, New York, NY 10021 

Church of the Holy Spirit Song - this is congregation based in South Florida and led by Rev. Deanna Jaworski. She is a dynamic preacher and leader who places a strong emphasis on personal holiness.

Soul Force - group dedicated to the support of gay Christians and direct action against homphobia. It is led by Mel White, an evangelical Christian, and the website contains a wealth of helpful information.

Pastor Samuel Kader Community Gospel Church PO Box 1634 Dayton Ohio 45401

EUROPE

Germany: Zwischenraum

ASIA

Singapore: Safehaven

SOUTH AMERICA

Other Sheep - a group led by an evangelical theologian, Tom Hanks, with extensive links throughout Latin America, Mexico and the USA. Some excellent resources on gthe webspage.

CEGLA - a group in Argentina

 

 

 


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